Wednesday, February 15, 2006

cupid sucks

I have some dear friends who hate Valentine's Day, and I can't say that I blame them. I think the societial pressures to be in a relationship, especially this time of year, are wrong... You don't have to be in a relationship to be a good person. It doesn't take two people to impact the world.

Somewhere in this world there is a person who is perfect for you. They are everything you never knew that you needed somebody to be. They're smart and laugh at all of your jokes. They are kind - and wonderful - and the nape of their neck will smell like buttercream. Their idiosynchricies will both baffle and amuse you. They'll hardly be perfect, but you won't really mind. They'll get on your nerves like everybody else... And someday you'll find them.

Or they'll find you -- and it will happen when you least expect it. You looking for it may not make it happen any quicker. It may happen in a totally unromantic place or a misrouted email or a smoky bar or the grocery store... but it will happen.

The universe does not harbor angst against you. Your karma is not caddy-wompus in the world. God does not hate you. You do not have an internal magnet that's stuck on the south pole...

Greeting card companies probably hate you. They want you to feel like you're missing out on something grand, something to probe you to buy their product to shower that someone with things they sell. This is the reason that cupid sucks -- because commercialism has turned a sweet story into something to sell.

It won't be this way forever.

If you've not read the real story behind Valentine's Day since you were in the third grade, or if you secretly harbor hatred for Emperor Claudius II, or if you want to see how the church wanted to turn people from celebrating a pagan holiday you can go to this link for the backstory.

6 comments:

the count said...

unequivocal prowess and i broke tradition this year and got each other stuff. neither one of us was going to, it was a standing deal we had. she told me monday morning, though, that she had a present for me, so i thought i'd better get her something considering she got me way better stuff for christmas than i got her. so, i decided that i'd go to target after school and get her some presents, as i was walking out the door a familiar voice seemed to be calling for me. it was unequivocal prowess standing at the front doors to the store, smiling. i knew something like that was going to happen, so as i was walking out with her stuff she was walking in to get mine. we had a nice little laugh about it then and later.

Kate said...

Thanks, I needed that. I had mostly managed to push away my general bitterness (my 'romantic' experiences have generally been disastrous) and get over it until confronted with bundles of roses on the London Underground EVERYWHERE I looked...

I'd probably have better luck if I just worked up the nerve to just TELL people I was interested in that I was, in fact, interested in them...

Molly Jane said...

I couldn't have said it better, even if I had tried really, really, really hard.

Peace out,
Jane

nicole said...

I agree. V-Day shouldn't be a day that anyone feels obligated to share trinkets and make merry. Where's the fun in THAT?

Even when I'm not dating anybody I don't hate Valentine's Day. I just hate the guys that are too stupid to see how great a catch I am.

Angry Dissenter said...

Bleck.

I said I wouldn't be bitter this year, but all that's done is put a bad taste in my mouth.

Oddly enough, though, I'm much better at scoring on the 4th of July than Valentine's Day. Couldn't say why. :)

Unequivocal_Prowess said...

My favorite day to score is any day that the family is in town and you have to make "the quiet" love. Have I shared too much?